This topic has been brought to my attention before. Previously, we discussed ways that men can avoid being labeled as a “douche” by a woman. A douche is a boy who does not have the class to attempt to get laid without playing, deceiving or disrespecting a woman. However, how can women differentiate between the two? Here are some warning signs to look for when being approached by a potential douche.
The first thing to do is trust your instincts. While it would seem that weighing the pros and cons of an individual would be the most rational way to discover their personality, listening to your gut can save you a lot of trouble. If you have an inkling that a boy is not who he appears to be, you’re probably right.
But, if your gut feeling is impaired (perhaps by too much alcohol) there are other ways to determine the douche-ness of a boy. Does he immediately enter your personal space, despite how long (or short) you’ve known him? Do you only ever interact with the individual when alcohol is involved? Does he immediately shower you with compliments, rather than initiating a conversation? If you answered yes to any of these questions, watch out.
Another important thing to look for is whether this boy continues to buy you drinks. If the drinks keep coming, but the conversation stalls, be sure the boy isn’t just trying to get you drunk. However, at the same time, remember that alcohol is a social lubricant. If a man is talking to you consistently and seems genuinely interested in your responses, he may just be attempting to keep the conversation going.
Ideally, we’ve reached an age in college that allows us to be direct, straightforward individuals. Women and men should be able to interact without suspicion. On the other hand, there still exist some boys who will just not play by the rules or show women the respect they deserve. As a woman you may be thinking, “I am being realistic and truthful, so why can’t I assume that a member of the opposite sex is doing the same?”
It is a good personality trait to be trusting of others, but it is also important to remember the great lengths a boy will go to get laid. And this isn’t just a slam on the male population. The reason we are attracted to anyone in the first place is because we are biologically trained to find a suitable partner with whom we can reproduce. The difference between a man and a douche is that a man is thinking long term, while a douche is looking for the easiest sex he can find. It may feel nice to be flattered, but as good as that flattery feels, it is not enough to combat how bad it hurts when you realize you’ve been played.
They’re called gentlemen, not gentleboys. Remember ladies, you want a man. There have to be a few of those somewhere.
