Dear Sexponent:
I am a (single) female and I constantly think about sex (I am talking as much as males do!), I really don’t want to talk out loud about it because I would feel too promiscuous, but I feel almost...insatiable! Is there something wrong with me?
Girl, don’t stress! Thinking about sex often is perfectly normal for both genders, especially in college. All social stigmas aside, sex is one of the three things you are programmed to need as a human being--including food and water. It is 100 percent OK as long as your sexual desires steer clear of turning you into a ravenous-carnal-creature. Meaning you should still function normally in day-to-day activities.
Let us take a look at why you might feel reticent.
Feeling a case of gender stereotypes(ing)? I think the media (American cinema especially), portrays females as: dumb-hot, smart-hot, innocent-hot and evil slut (the one that raves about sex). This is far from the truth, but it is always reinforced on males and females; perhaps this is why you feel the need to be tight-lipped on the subject.
Further, your question is stereotyping males, not all males think like that, maybe just the ones with terrible pick up lines.
Honestly I think this is completely normal; it means you have a healthy sex drive. Both males and females are equally biologically programmed to reproduce and thus consider both the act of sex and sexual partners. The fact that we also experience pleasure with sex is a bonus!
No one can tell you how to think. Perhaps what you should work on is how to approach your female (or male) friends when talking about the subject. If you come on too strong, they might run off because sex is still a touchy subject. Instead, ask if they are comfortable discussing sex with you. If so, continue with the conversation and keep in mind their reaction in order to gauge how forward (and graphic) you should be.
As with any subject, there is a level where something can become “too much.” In order to avoid that, buy an erotic novel or go out and exercise. Visit the gym, hit up Bridger or Big Sky, or practice meditation to clear your mind and get rid of your physical energy that may be causing that frustration.
Happy mental plowing!
